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“Smother” Nature and the Art of Letting Go

Sometimes, writing a letter to someone that you never intend to send is the most therapeutic thing you can do. Thoughts about my teenager…. I’ve been seeing signs that it’s time for me to let you go. You withhold affection when I try to hug you. You side with Dad on everything (even when we … Read more…

How to win a power struggle

Some kids seem to be born to fight for power. As parents, we look for our child’s “currency”. We need to know if our kids value screen time, dessert, or outings with friends so that we can use it to lure them into good behavior. But what if your child’s currency is power? What if … Read more…

When your child is embarrassed by you….

Or you are embarrassed by them!  Let’s face it, when we were young, our parents were embarrassing. They dressed like dorks, listened to weirdly quiet music, wiped gunk off our cheeks with their saliva and talked and sang way too much. Not us, we are cool Moms. We are fun Moms!  We watch cool TV … Read more…

How to tell if your child is lying to you

I’m deep in research for my upcoming webinar about raising teens (note the date change to Oct. 13th) and am enjoying hearing the stories from parents about the trials and tribulations of living with adolescents. If you haven’t shared your biggest challenge yet, email me here. I thought I’d pass along this fun bit of … Read more…

Could raising teens be good you?

Raising teens fills us with worries, fears and doubts.  I have clients who tell me… “I’m worried my son isn’t social enough, he never wants to go out and do things. “I’m worried my daughter is too social, all she wants is to be with her friends.” ” “I wish my daughter would care more about … Read more…

Are you an overthinker, over-analyzer or ruminator?

Do you get stuck up in your head and have a hard time talking yourself out of a negative place? This used to happen to me A LOT. Ruminating on past mistakes: stupid things I said or did, kicking myself for things I didn’t say but should have, and worrying about how my inadequacies made … Read more…

Have you seen the movie Bad Moms?

Oh my gosh, so funny. Not very flattering of Dads so go with girlfriends for sure. The movie does a great job of illustrating the problem modern moms face. Somewhere around the invention of “Baby Einstein” we picked up this idea that being a “good mom” means taking responsibility for our children’s mental, physical, emotional, … Read more…

The only advice you’ll ever need

Lin* was a stay-home Mom of three school aged kids. She worked from sun up to sun down, striving to do her best. Even in the summer, she made sure her kids ate healthy, organic foods, practiced piano, played outside, spoke kindly and read books. Her life was dedicated to being the best Mom she … Read more…

Lessons white parents can teach white kids about racism

If you are like most people I know, hearing about racial tension in our country makes you sick and disheartened. You love and enjoy people for who they are, not the color of their skin. You can’t imagine disliking, let alone hating someone, because they look different or come from a different culture. You worry … Read more…