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Are you worried about politics coming up at your holiday celebrations?

The house is all decorated for the holidays, the kids are happily running around with their cousins, the smells from the kitchen fill the warm house, and someone starts talking about Trump. For Americans, discussing politics at the dinner table has changed from an intellectual, logical discussion to something highly emotional and divisive. If you are worried about the … Read more…

The hardest blog I’ve ever written

How one racist comment changed me for the better, and hopefully this election will, too. When I was about 10, I was playing a game at a neighbor’s house across the street. My friend Maria named her character Xiang Xiang, after a few rounds, she asked me why I wasn’t including her character in the game. I … Read more…

The only problem you will ever have

Friendship problems can be confusing, overwhelming, and very common. But really, all problems boil down to just one thing: The problem is we think we shouldn’t have problems. Friendship problems are here to help us grow. Our problems teach us about empathy (for ourselves and others). They help us figure out who we are, what … Read more…

Are you tired of arguing about chores?

  Ok, So I had a mini-meltdown last weekend….about chores….AGAIN!   I have this picture in my head of the whole family working together, listening to great music, everyone doing their part to get the job done. In this fantasy I feel supported in accomplishing my goal of a clean house. I like the idea … Read more…

When Bad Things Happen to People You Know

There are have been some recent tragedies in my community lately and it’s always hard to know what to do when bad things happen to people. Instead of pretending to be an expert, I’ll share what I have learned from experience NOT to do when people are suffering. Whether it’s divorce, diagnosis, death or another … Read more…

What kind of messages are you sending to your kids?

Are you aware of the parenting energy you are sending? Energy is a tough thing to talk about because it is so hard to see, but the more I coach, teach and parent, the more I see how valuable it is to spend time thinking about. Kids are especially sensitive to the energies people put out. … Read more…

“Smother” Nature and the Art of Letting Go

Sometimes, writing a letter to someone that you never intend to send is the most therapeutic thing you can do. Thoughts about my teenager…. I’ve been seeing signs that it’s time for me to let you go. You withhold affection when I try to hug you. You side with Dad on everything (even when we … Read more…

How to win a power struggle

Some kids seem to be born to fight for power. As parents, we look for our child’s “currency”. We need to know if our kids value screen time, dessert, or outings with friends so that we can use it to lure them into good behavior. But what if your child’s currency is power? What if … Read more…

When your child is embarrassed by you….

Or you are embarrassed by them!  Let’s face it, when we were young, our parents were embarrassing. They dressed like dorks, listened to weirdly quiet music, wiped gunk off our cheeks with their saliva and talked and sang way too much. Not us, we are cool Moms. We are fun Moms!  We watch cool TV … Read more…

10 Powerful Questions

5 Questions every morning to give you clarity and intention.
5 Questions every evening to give you satisfaction and gratitude.

This is the best way to get you in the driver’s seat of your life.