“I need some money and I need it now. I don’t care what I have to do, just please hire me. I’ll do anything.”
Does that make you want to hire me? If so, help-a-holics anonymous might be your next stop. Most people are turned off by desperation. Just like that kid sophmore year that wouldn’t stop calling & following you around, desperate energy repels people.
Whether you are looking for a job, a partner, a babysitter, or a contractor, never do it from desperation, hate, or fear.
“I can’t stand my job and I just need to work for someone who isn’t an ass.”
It’s really hard to help you with that.
“I love what I do, I am ridiculously good at it, I’ve made people very successful by doing it and I’d love to come and do it with you.”
“I am super organized and love to plan down to the smallest detail. I’ve gotten high praise for my ability to bring things and people together in a collaborative way. And what really makes me come alive is using these talents in a way that not only improves the environment, but improves the way people experience and play in their world.”
This gives me a clear picture of who you are and I WANT to help you find more JOY and LOVE. I also want to help your potential co-workers, customers, and the environment by introducing you to them.
“I’m looking for a babysitter who isn’t an idiot and maybe even cleans up their crap once in awhile.”
Hmm, I can think of about 2,000 people who fit that picture but I don’t want to call any of them for fear that you’ll say the same about them.
“I’m looking for a babysitter who loves being with my kids. One who can keep my home clean and organized but lights up at the sound of my children’s voices and uses her time with them to express her own creativity and unique self.”
The perfect person just came to mind, I’ll message her right now!
“I am looking for a kind, open-minded partner who likes to be active outdoors. Someone who sees the silver lining, but also likes to delve deeply into serious topics.”
I don’t know that person yet but I have the picture in my head so as soon as I meet him/her, I’ll call you right away.
People naturally like to help. We like to connect our friends and share our wealth of knowledge. When you are descriptive like this, it gives us a vision, a picture of what you are looking for. It brings someone to mind that I can immediately connect you with.
“I just want to be with someone who isn’t a cheap, lazy bastard.”
Makes me think maybe it’s good to be single for awhile.
You are worth more than “just someone kind” or “just a job you don’t hate where you feel respected.”
Dream bigger, imagine with perfect details, then tell us, all of us, about your dream. We all want to help make it come true.
Here’s my dream:
I am loving my phone/internet class called Leading Your Teen: Live Your Best Life So Your Teen Will, Too
. I love it so much, I’d like to teach it again in March, but I’d also like to expand and teach a class for parents with 1-5 year olds. I’m looking for Moms who love their kids and want to do what’s best for them, but without sacrificing who they are in the process. I want Moms who err on the side of “over-parenting”. It doesn’t matter if they are working or at home, but that they are interested in support for shifting out of worry, getting the most out of their life, and watching their children thrive. If you know anyone who wants to create a more peaceful, purposeful relationship with their kids, please connect us so I can put them on my interest list. Thanks for helping me make my dream come true!
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Hi Torie! OK, so this article is so timely and helpful for me! Thank you, thank you! I NEED to leave my current job, but first, I need to figure out where I’m going next, and your advice to not just go out there and be desperate sounds very wise!
Miss seeing you at book club, although now that I’m working full time, I barely make it anymore.
Hope you are fabulously happy and well.