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Episode #100!!
So exciting! Thank you for accompanying me on this journey.
Special Episode: Instead of answering a listener question, I thought I’d walk you through some of my parenting a-ha moments that shifted my energy. I’m going to tell you 7 stories of my personal transformations that I’m sure you will resonate with. I’m also going to tell you the results of some informal surveying I’ve been doing, asking grown kids the following questions: What did your mom do well? What do you wish she had done differently? What was the highlight of your childhood? And why the answers to those questions really matter! First, let’s talk about the 7 levels of energy. This concept was taken from David Hawkin’s book Power vs. Force and outlined in Bruce D. Schneider’s book Energy Leadership, modified here for motherhood. 1 – Victim – Circumstances dictate my life. I have no power. “I lose” Guilt, worry, self doubt, hopelessness, fear. “I have to…” “I need to….” “I should….” Moms in victim mindset say things like “I have to do everything around here.” “How come I do all the work” “My kids, partner, bank account, won’t let me do what I want.” The a-ha moment that lifted me out of level one victim energy was modified from Eckart Tolle: “Do the dishes, or don’t do the dishes, but don’t worry about doing the dishes.”



Survey Results:
What did your mom do well?
She trusted me. She was very kind and loving. We had a very stable and predictable house with little drama. I always knew she loved me. She was fair. She taught me to pay attention to feelings: mine and other peoples. She was an excellent nurturer.What do you wish she had done differently?
I wish she had taken more time to herself to relax. She was always stressed, I wish she could have been less urgent and more fun and playful. I wish she had pushed me more. I wish she had pushed me less. I wish she was more tuned into me as a teenager. I wish she had backed off and trusted me more. I wish she had been more involved. I wish she had been less involved. I wish she had provided more structure. I wish she hadn’t been so rigid. It was interesting how the answers to this question were more about the child, than a reflection on the parent. How they answer this question might give you a glimpse into their future career path or lifestyle choices. It’s more of a glimpse of where they are now, than it is about your parenting.What was the highlight of your childhood?
There is a theme! Everyone responded with some version of: Outside, moving in nature, unstructured time with kid led activities, peers……. but no adults nearby!10 Powerful Questions
5 Questions every morning to give you clarity and intention.
5 Questions every evening to give you satisfaction and gratitude.
This is the best way to get you in the driver’s seat of your life.